Are you ready for real love? In this day and age of fast-paced and short-lived relationships, it is challenging and many times difficult, to find good, solid, effective, and useful, information that helps to build healthy and long-lasting romantic relationships. Whether you are single, married, divorced, or looking-to-be-married, these time-tested steps will help you and your current or future mate to create a long-lasting romantic bliss.
Have you ever wondered if honesty is really the best policy? At some point, couples in every romantic relationship have the talk, where they spill the beans on their pasts. It is a chance to come clean and get all the skeletons out of the closet. But how much information is truly necessary? How much truth is too much? For instance does a woman have to be completely honest about every romantic relationship she has been in?
You cannot imagine the number of times I have sat and listened to women cry with excruciating pain over being taken for granted after supporting an estranged lover financially. I have seen first-hand results of women walking around with broken hearts and empty wallets because of giving too much and not getting enough in return. In anguish they reflect, I don’t understand what went wrong. I gave him everything I had. How could he have walked out on me after I took such good care of him?
Do you find yourself constantly saying yes to the man in your life, when you really want to say no? I'm not referring to a healthy, balanced relationship, but to an off-balanced, lopsided situation, in which many women have developed the unhealthy relationship pattern of being "yes women" in front of their mates, yet they are internally frustrated and complain about it behind their backs. Lord knows I get a bevy of emails and letters on a weekly basis that attests to the unfortunate condition of women suffering from the "disease to please" at the expense of their own happiness.
How will you be spending your Christmas dinner this year, spreading holiday cheers, or shedding holiday tears? Have you ever been played by a player in the height of the holidays? It’s a sad, but unfortunate truth that there will be at least two or three women maneuvering to hook the attention of one man to sit at the table with them and share the celebrated annual Christmas dinner this year. This unbalanced three-to-one predicament is nothing new to the ongoing competition the women have endured or indulged in all year long. However, what adds even more pressure at this time of the year is what the holiday season represents. Christmas is a time that is associated with traditional family bonding, spreading merriment with relatives and loved ones, and attending early morning church service, even if you haven’t done so since Easter.
This is the time of the year when we start creating a new list of resolutions. After surviving another year of various challenges and life circumstances, please give yourself an affectionate hug for making it through and for arriving at this moment in time, right where you are. I encourage you to begin this New Year by making a conscious decision to get in touch with the true essence of who you are and to place a high value on your inner self-worth. The simple truth is we tend to overestimate other people’s abilities and mistakenly underestimate our own.
There comes a point in every woman’s life where she purposely pauses along her life path to deeply ponder: What do I have to show for all I’ve been through? Am I on the right path? Is this the life I truly want for myself? Whether she is referring to financial stability, the right husband or man in her life, a certain career position, a child, a successful business, the ideal body weight or simply peace of mind, this soul-searching reflection can be a major turning point. After investing years, tears, hard work and self-sacrifice and not achieving personal contentment, she finds herself at a crossroads in life adamantly declares, “Enough is enough, it’s my time now
It is no secret that a lot of women have quite a bit of emotional self-mending to do from the wear-and-tear of being romantically involved in unhealthy relationships. Many tend to display a high tolerance level for putting up with a lot of nonsense by ignoring the lies and infidelity dished out to them by unscrupulous mismatched mates.
This three-part series will show you how to be free of the past so you can love with a new outlook and place a high value on your personal self-worth. Detrimental romances have left too many women with broken promises, broken spirits, and broken hearts. I encourage you to realize right now that you don't ever have to settle for any unhealthy relationship in which you are the Band-Aid to cover up your mate's wound while neglecting your own emotional scars. Instead, be aware that a healthy relationship is a balanced love in which both partners can be the healing balm to each other when needed.
People may say they want one thing, yet subconsciously their actions and personalities say something completely different. For example, a woman may have gone through a series of harsh and unkind experiences with men in the past and verbally affirms that she wants an ideal mate in the present. Yet, if in fact she has not taken time to cleanse and heal from her old memories and habits, she may, consciously or unconsciously, attract the same type of unworthy men into her life. Or, on the other hand, if a decent man steps into her life, she may not be able to bond with him in a healthy manner because past emotions will keep resurfacing and interfering with their relationship.
